Author Archive: Beth Steury

A world that respects sex… Can you even imagine?

I don’t normally write fantasy or dystopian, but since fantastical worlds are all the rage these days, I thought I’d try my hand at creating an other-worldly place. A place where I’d like to live. A world inhabited by humans—people just like you and me—not oddly configured creatures or super heroes. Just ordinary guys and …

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“But I didn’t wait…”

Forever and ever, I’ve been a save-sex-for-marriage cheerleader. I always have and always will root for postponing sexual experiences until the formal commitment of marriage.  I’m 1000% convinced that the intimacy of joining one body with another is a sacred act that should take place only within the boundaries of marriage. If you’re committed to …

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“I never meant to hurt you. I never stopped thinking about you…”

Remember the 21-year-old girl from last time, looking back and wondering “What if sex hadn’t complicated our relationship?” Today it’s the guy’s turn. Even four years after they broke up, he can’t shake the memories of her… of them together. And then a chance encounter leaves him wondering … “I have to go …”I cut-off the …

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What if sex HADN’T complicated our relationship?

If this young twenty-something female could send advice to herself in the past, this is what she’d say…   A letter to myself at 17…  We need to talk about that awesome guy you’re seeing. I know you think you love him and in a way you do, but it’s not a forever kind of …

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“But we’re only living together because we can’t afford to get married…”

…she insisted when the conversation turned, once again, to the fact that she was living with her fiancé. I liked the guy. I had no issue with them being together, getting engaged, planning a wedding. But I wasn’t a fan of their living arrangements. “We simply can’t afford to get married.” “That’s not true.” “It …

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“But we’re getting married soon—it’s basically a done deal. So it’s hardly even premarital sex.”

“I mean, the ring is on her finger. The church is booked. The dress—it’s being altered as we speak. So come on, we waited this long. What can it hurt?” Maybe the question shouldn’t be “What can it hurt?” but rather “What will it help?” How will having sex now—2 days or 2 weeks or …

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Because SEX is supposed to be the MORTAR

I love, love, love when a guy gets real and deep about… the sad reality of how our world views sex GOD’s awesome design for sex Mike Donehey does that and more with this great, visual analogy …I want to say to anyone single out there, don’t believe the lie you have to let them …

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“But since we really love each other, sex is okay, right? That has to mean somethin’…”

But we love each other is probably the most common rationalization for disregarding the advice to save sex for after the “I do’s”. After all, people passionately insist, wasn’t sex specifically designed for people who love each other? Well, yes, it was but— See? We’re good because we really do love each other. And if …

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“Yeah, we’re having sex but we’re a couple, so…

… it’s okay. See, it’s not like I’m hooking up with someone different every weekend. We’ve been together like   (fill in the blank) . So, yeah, … it’s fine.” A lot of people see hooking up or friends with benefits or casual sex—however you define those terms—as something entirely different, and definitely way worse, than having …

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“Don’t worry about us, we don’t go all the way, we just…

…do everything else.” Countless couples pat themselves on the back because, unlike many of their friends, they are not having sex. Not “regular” sex anyway. They fool around a lot, but they’re saving actual sex for … well, later. Maybe later as in marriage or maybe not that long. Just later. “We’re still virgins,” they exclaim. …

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